The First Lady’s Open Letter

At Wednesday night’s memorial service in Tucson, Michelle Obama cut a somber figure even as broad swaths of the crowd appeared to find catharsis through laughter or cheering. Mrs. Obama, the mother of a nine-year-old girl, seemed particularly emotional during the sections of her husband’s speech that focused on Christina Taylor Green, the nine-year-old victim of last Saturday’s shooting. Yesterday the First Lady broke her silence about the tragedy, issuing an open letter to parents that outlined her thoughts on the shooting, including how it offered an opportunity to impart valuable lessons. You can read her full letter here. From the text:

In the days and weeks ahead, as we struggle with these issues ourselves, many of us will find that our children are struggling with them as well.  The questions my daughters have asked are the same ones that many of your children will have – and they don’t lend themselves to easy answers.  But they will provide an opportunity for us as parents to teach some valuable lessons – about the character of our country, about the values we hold dear, and about finding hope at a time when it seems far away.
We can teach our children that here in America, we embrace each other, and support each other, in times of crisis.  And we can help them do that in their own small way – whether it’s by sending a letter, or saying a prayer, or just keeping the victims and their families in their thoughts.
We can teach them the value of tolerance – the practice of assuming the best, rather than the worst, about those around us.  We can teach them to give others the benefit of the doubt, particularly those with whom they disagree.

It is perhaps a measure of our reflex to scan material for objectionable content — or through the prism of politics — that my first reaction to the letter was that it could be construed as an attempt to offer pointers on parenting. And it’s spurred some criticism from predictable corners and unleashed a sea of bile from Internet commenters. And yet, whether or not you quarrel with her conclusions, I don’t see how anyone could argue she’s not coming from a well-intentioned place. As the mother of a girl the same age as Christina Green, she’s clearly considered how to discuss the tragedy with her own children, and I don’t begrudge her leveraging her position to share those thoughts.

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  • nflfoghorn

    “UncleZeb commented:
    “‘Who writes this crap for her. She didn’t put any two of these words together.’”
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    Aside from the fact that these guys hate her ‘CAUSE SHE’S BLACK (IMO), why do we give half-brained haters an equal platform?

  • nflfoghorn

    Miss Prissy doesn’t put any two of HER words together, yet her “lovers” overlook that….

  • hippooath

    Why can’t her letter stand on it’s own without the mention of people who don’t like it? We already know that someone will oppose it, to give it a legitimate platform on it’s own only dismiss the very thing our first lady asked for in the letter.

    Please, no tit for tat. If you recognize that opposing point of views are self serving and hateful lets them remain unsaid.

  • http://jmcalli.wordpress.com jmcalli

    Looks like UncleZeb lost his platform.

  • deconstructiva

    Maybe there will be no tit for tat here too?

  • nflfoghorn

    I’m serious about the race card. These clowns can hide behind anonymity and toss as many darts as they want. It doesn’t matter what she says or why – all they care about is ridicule because she’s not physically Laura Bush’s stature or complexion.
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    If it was one of **their** daughters you’d think they would at least understand…but the desire to trash an ‘opponent’ far outweighs a cowlick of common sense.

  • http://shortplaysaboutrealpeople.wordpress.com Michael Maiello

    See Alex, we’re not allowed to just disagree with each other anymore. You can’t come to a different conclusion than I do and yet still be “coming from a well-intentioned place.”

    If you don’t like the lesson that Michelle Obama wants to make out of the Tucson shooting than it can mean only one thing — that Michelle Obama wants to tell you how to raise your children and if you don’t listen to her she’s going to take your children away from you because she is evil.

    I’m flabbergasted that you don’t get that. Don’t you understand? She wants to take your children from you.

  • http://erieangel.wordpress.com erieangel

    What a wonderful letter. I know when my kids were small, I would have welcomed such heartwarming and tender words in times of trouble.

  • http://2thirdsrocks.wordpress.com 2thirdsrocks

    Unclezeb’s a jackwagon. And foggy inadvertantly fell right into his trap, which I’m sure is just how Alex planned it.

  • charlieromeobravo

    Teach your kids to be more tolerant and civil. How can you really be opposed to the point she’s making? This is like voicing opposition to her when she says that we should be teaching our kids to eat healthier. So our kids should be more combative, belligerent, and fat? The causes that Michelle Obama has gotten behind are so fluffy and obviously noncontroversial that it’s tough to argue against then and not look like an idiot or a knee jerk wing-nut.

  • nflfoghorn

    Um, 2/16ths, I went to the site and pulled the quote. Are you saying that these Neanderthals are cunning as well as bigoted?

  • http://grapemusing.blogspot.com/ grape_crush

    …unleashed a sea of bile from Internet commenters.

    I’m sorry you feel that way about all of us ‘Internet commenters’, Alex. In the future, we’ll all try not to be exactly the same.

    I don’t begrudge her leveraging her position to share those thoughts.

    Neither do I.

  • http://2thirdsrocks.wordpress.com 2thirdsrocks

    Nothing cunning about him/them. What do you suppose Alex’s reason was for posting them? To get you to play the card?

  • nflfoghorn

    “So our kids should be more combative, belligerent, and fat?”
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    We’re well on our way to producing a new wave of Limbaughs.
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    “it’s tough to argue against ["fluff"] and not look like an idiot or a knee jerk wing-nut”
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    Yeah, but these guys go out of their way.

  • apr2563

    Thanks grape_crush. I get very tired of the pundocracy lumping all Internet, blog comment into one mind set. Chuck Todd, who seems to have some paranoia regarding the Internet, has a tendency to disparage all comments, particularly from the left. Maybe it is the need to take down what you can’t control.
    .
    None of the sites I read on a regular basis (Digby, Kos, TPM, Daily Dish, Crooks and Liars, Atrios, etc) have the harshness of Red State and The Free Republic on any given day.

  • nflfoghorn

    I may disagree with a political person but there’s no need to talk about appearances or, worse, use stereotypes.

  • 3xfire3

    Michelle Obama letter is very moving and a good lesson for all of us.
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    As she said:
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    “We can teach our children that here in America; we embrace each other, and support each other, in times of crisis.”
    .
    “We can teach them the value of tolerance – the practice of assuming the best, rather than the worst, about those around us. We can teach them to give others the benefit of the doubt, particularly those with whom they disagree.”
    .
    After such great caring words it make me sick in my stomach to read some of the above comments by swamp haters.
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    To go to a website that Alex should never had linked and pull of a comment by someone who is only a commenter on that Blog and use it to spread hate on this site is inexcusable. I would hope that people posting on this site would man and woman up and tell these swampers that there is no place here for this kind of hateful comments. Hateful comments whether they come from the left or the right are disgusting.
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    At a time when we should be lower our voices and try to respect those who happen to have a different opinion than we do, it is indefensible to make these hateful comments.
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    This doesn’t mean we can’t disagree on the issues. It just means we should not be hateful about it.
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    Are there any other people on swampland that share these feeling and have the courage to say so?

  • http://couwnt.wordpress.com couwnt

    “The questions my daughters have asked are the same ones that many of your children will have – and they don’t lend themselves to easy answers.”

    How about this: It was the act of a crazy man.

    How hard was that?

    Answer: Pretty hard if you don’t believe it.

    The hypocrisy and disingenuousness that comes out of this administration is laughable.

  • hippooath

    I think a lot of us already did. – See couwnt below. It illustrate a venom that perpetuate itself where there’s a vaccuum of reason. Us here is not the problem; the thought exemplified below is. You can ask us to be as reasonable as we can get until we break out in song but it won’t change the sentiment in the opposing irrationality.
    .
    Or – put like this. You’re preaching to us as if we’re about to do something bad when others are already burning down the tent.
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    You’re better off telling them to see reason than you are telling us since I or anyone else here didn’t start the tit.
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    I’m not going to tat either. I’m going to have a cup of coffee. Then I’m going to take a nap. You should read my comment to what you copied and pasted about ‘why liberals hate Sarah’. I suggest you take that to heart because I’m being very honest. If think that what the guy wrote is a factual representation of me or anyone else here you have lost a significant part of ‘reasonable discourse’.

  • hippooath

    Question: How unreal can you get?
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    Answer: Very
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    If you find it hypocritical that we take to heart what the dead girl did during her brief but it seems like productive life and temper us as adults and guide our kids to strive, then you have no soul. You have a void. And I pity you. Not as if you are monstrous, but pitiful. So lost.
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    Second. She’s not part of the administration. She’s the first lady. If you are going to hate stuff, then get at least something right. Otherwise it’s just laughable.

  • nflfoghorn

    It’s critcism from another planet, where even the non-controversial is blasted because of who the source is, not what he/she says.
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    If, for example, Miss Prissy told kids to eat their veggies, I wouldn’t snark on her about it ’cause it was a true and good thing to say.
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    The wingers have to find something–anything–to harp on, no matter how inocuous. Why wasn’t the memorial service held at a church instead of an arena? [IDK, maybe 'cause there were 14,000 people there??] Why did they cheer and whoop instead of act all somber? ['Cause they were sick of doing the latter??] Why were there t-shirts? [To cover their bodies as well as make a statement??]
    .
    I pulled out one quote from what Alex described as a “sea of bile from Internet commenters”; if it makes you feel bad or somehow spreads the wrong message about your side, well, sorry.

  • shepherdwong

    How about this: It was the act of a crazy man.
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    Maybe Michelle doesn’t want her daughters to grow up to be thoughtless simpletons.

  • Ivy_B

    3x -

    To go to a website that Alex should never had linked and pull of a comment by someone who is only a commenter on that Blog and use it to spread hate on this site is inexcusable. I would hope that people posting on this site would man and woman up and tell these swampers that there is no place here for this kind of hateful comments. Hateful comments whether they come from the left or the right are disgusting.

    .
    I think some of us feel that this is an example of what drives us nuts about the media, that is the need to provide something from the “other side” no matter how much of a stretch it is. The shorthand for this tendency is “he said; she said” journalism. In some cases, as this one, getting another quote leads into unnecessary nastiness. I would guess some of the “predictable corners” chose not to comment or their commenters were not so nasty.
    .
    We agree it was a lovely letter and perfectly able to stand on its own without any need for an “opposing” view.

  • newfreedomblog

    “all they care about is ridicule because she’s not physically Laura Bush’s stature or complexion.”

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    In other words they are…
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  • 3xfire3

    hippo,
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    If you read the comments that were made before I wrote my comments and not after, I believe you would agree with most of what I said.
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    nflfoghorn is every bit as much of a hater as couwnt.
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    nflfoghorn we unfortunately hear from every day.
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    The Fisrt Lady and the President can not even moderate his hate.

  • http://tisias.wordpress.com tisias

    it’s my opinion that people of influence (aka, presidents, politicians, celebrities, talk show hosts, and Sarah Palins) have often, and rightfully so, played the roles of commentor and couselor to the public in times of tragedy and crisis. Instinctively, we look to someone (and I quote) “to create order out of the chaos.” For those who question Mrs. Obama’s authority and message, she is a national figure and a mother. You can take her advice or leave it, but don’t criticize her choice to speak.

  • shepherdwong

    nflfoghorn is every bit as much of a hater as couwnt.
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    Don’t you just hate that?

  • bojimbo26

    After reading the full letter , I totally agree with it .

    Jim ( UK )

  • 3xfire3

    Apr,
    .
    “None of the sites I read on a regular basis (Digby, Kos, TPM, Daily Dish, Crooks and Liars, Atrios, etc) have the harshness of Red State and The Free Republic on any given day.”
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    Do you have any idea at all that your comments are your perceptions and opinions and not necessarily truth?
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    I’m sure you sincerely believe what you write but sanity would indicate that one’s perceptions and opinions are not necessarily facts.

  • 3xfire3

    “nflfoghorn is every bit as much of a hater as couwnt.”
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    “Don’t you just hate that?”
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    No. I think it’s sad. when you’re full of hate you can not be a happy person.

  • 3xfire3

    tisias,
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    Everybody here should have simply said what a great letter it was. All the negative comments add no value to this moving story.

  • nflfoghorn

    Me, for one :)

  • hippooath

    “hippo,
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    If you read the comments that were made before I wrote my comments and not after, I believe you would agree with most of what I said.
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    nflfoghorn is every bit as much of a hater as couwnt.
    .
    nflfoghorn we unfortunately hear from every day.
    .
    The Fisrt Lady and the President can not even moderate his hate.”
    .
    No, I don’t. I don’t agree with the cut and paste and I don’t agree now. I don’t have to. I agree that we should temper ourselves but what I wrote above is as simple as it gets. We’re not the problem. We’re responding to the tit.
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    Also – one ‘hater’ does not a movement make. The cut and paste assumed we all hate Sarah, so you go on a mission finding one hater and make that the epidemic of the left.
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    I personally don’t know why people on the right go to such a length holding onto their hatred and why you’re so willing to dismiss what we feel about it, so you can focus on one or two people here that really don’t feel like playing nice when p!ssed on.
    .
    Again – we’re not the problem, no matter what that guy thought about us and Sarah and no matter how many infantile things Rush says. We don’t harbor the same venom as the right fringe does. We don’t parade with guns or talk about 2nd amendment remedies.
    .
    Have a good evening and a great weekend

  • http://tisias.wordpress.com tisias

    at least textee isn’t here ;)

  • textee

    What does “tolerance” have to do with the fact that a leftist, atheist, American flag burning militant, abortion enthusiast, dope smoking pot-head and whack job 9/11 Truther conspiracy theorist (who thinks that George W. Bush was behind the 9/11 attacks) named Jared “No! I won’t trust in God!” Loughner murdered and injured dozens of people?

    Are there actually any parents stupid enough to take parenting advice from an angry, bitter, virulent militant like Michelle “For the first time in my adult life, I am proud of my country” Obama?

  • apr2563

    I hope couwnt does not have children. What is he telling that child who is looking for comfort and a meaningful explanation?

  • mailman839

    “…unleashed a sea of bile from Internet commenters.”
    .
    ‘I’m sorry you feel that way about all of us ‘Internet commenters’, Alex. In the future, we’ll all try not to be exactly the same.’
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    Um, Grape – - where did he say “all commenters”? Or even some other modifier like “most”, “many”, or “gobs”? Not meaning to be picky, just curious.

  • np042

    Almost. 15 min early

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